happy end

I realize. sometimes, no matter how frustrating it is, I need to pull myself back from all the things I can live without, including the one thing I really want to be, and give my sons my undivided attention, my unconditional love.

I used to feel very guilty and conflicted about this, often seeking improbable ways to a more creative, satisfying life while ignoring what probably is my greatest source of inspiration. I know now that I can stop for a while without giving it all up, without losing my true identity. that being a good mother and a good writer are the dearest wishes of my heart. and that to believe I can have both is the first step toward that happy end.

Comments

[shaz]

is it just me, or did you already get your wish?
you certainly are both dear Irene.

[Waya]

I can see that your life is very fulfilling, with love, health, and ambition. Who would ask for more?!

[christina]

Oh, I so agree.. it's such a balancing act isn't it? You always amaze me with how much you do. You'll be fine. You'll do both. I have no doubt.

[mamatulip]

Ah, this post is near and dear to my heart. You can have both, you deserve both.

[carol]

I was just pondering this exact thing this evening. I don't have any other "passion" than parenting, but I definitely need to have a life of my own. I love staying home more, which makes me feel like I'm giving up on me, but I really think it just means I'm being more me.

Does that make sense?

[Marilyn]

AMEN!

[patry]

How well I understand those two dearest wishes of your heart.

[melanie]

ah, yes, the struggle between being a good mother and losing one's identity. i have felt the pains from this battle, but i too am starting to see the light. how about i give you permission to be both a good mom and good writer and you can give me permission to be a good mom and a good artist, okay? :)

[Chris]

Of course you can get both - I think you already have. :)

[kristen]

words to live by my friend. xo

[Katia]

I'm so glad to see you write these thoughts down, after hearing your work them through. I really think you have the strength and wisdom to have both.

[Vanessa]

I agree - you can (and are) both a good mother and a good writer. Keep up the good work!!

[Cindy]

We can be anything our hearts desire. As moms, we must never forget our hopes and dreams. Now that my daughter is older, I have rekindled my interests, creativity and passion - I love my life!

It is great that you can be the best you too! : )

[Yan]

I just wanted to say that your writing is beatutful in its simplicity.

[la vie en rose]

i'm starting to learn this too. i wish someone had told me this from the beginning but who knows, i may not have believed them at the time. it may just be something we have to learn on our own.