dilemmas everywhere

my boys aged 3 enter kindergarten next September and I have to decide whether they will be together in one classroom or separate in two. the decision is complicated by school administration, friends and family who all believe that separation will support the growth of their independence and individuality. every morning I wake up with a contradictory idea that arises unceasing questions and doubts about the issue of classroom placement.

together vs. separated, boosters vs. car seats, educational computer games vs. traditional playing, SAHM vs. working mother. is life with kids only about choices, decisions and dilemmas?

Comments

[Joelene]

Your kids are sooo cute! I am sure that you will make the right decision, for your fmaily!

[carol]

I am the queen of school dilemmas. I finally put both of my kids in the same school and, somewhat like twins, my kids are connected - attached. They bug each other, but also thrive when they are together.

No one can answer this for you. Do you belong to a twins club? Maybe talking to some of those moms might help if they have prior experience.

Go with your gut. If you think they will do better, and can learn, together - go for it. If you think they'll gain independence and appreciate each other when they're back together in the evening - separate them.

I'm no help...sorry.

[Lisa]

Hi Momster, and welcome to the Paris blogverse. Parenting never stops being about choices, and believe me they just get more complicated as the kids get older. Choosing a car seat starts to seem like a privilege rather than a dilemma! Then, suddenly, your kids are making their own choices....

I think you should talk to other parents of twins about the together/apart questions. The parents of twins I know all have strong feelings about it, but don't all agree! It depends on the personalities of the twins, how much they depend on each other, how much they seek out other friends, etc.

[Auntie M]

There are twins in my school. During maternelle, they were in class together, but now they are separated. They are from Russia and they don't speak French so they needed to be separated so they could learn the French language. But they always hang out together at lunch time. Good luck with your decision.

[Susie Sunshine]

Add sticky kisses and hearing silly nonsense words over and over to your list and you've eloquently summed up motherhood in this day and age.

[jennie]

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I am a twin. I was devastated when my twin sister and I weren't allowed to be in the same classroom (school rule) in kindergarten, but we survived. We were never in the same classroom, but I think it was good for us. We made different friends and had different experiences than we would have had if we had been together. I was the shy twin, so if I hadn't been forced to meet people, I might have never come out of my shell.

Don't know if that helps or not, but I just had to comment.

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